Please help me Im begging You!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!…
I like this man but his my bother in laws “cousin” at 1st I found him to be sweet, genuine, thoughtful as well as he is very hard working and intelligent. He is very successful but, he and my brother in law do not get along. My sister told me to stay away from him because she said that he was bad. I asked what he did wrong and why he was so “bad” she said that there where reports of him “Raping a woman” and him being gay in the past because he kissed a guy. (He told me that he kissed a guy) but he said that he was being stupid but he isn’t gay. My sister said that he was evil because he takes “anti depression pills” since he had a bad childhood. But I found out that my brother in law and his “family” never get along in the 1st place because there always fighting over stupid things. I have been talking to him for 5weeks now and I have this close connection with him. His 28years old Furthermore, He has gone out of his way to show that all these rumours are false. He even went and got his file from the police just to show me that his not lying and to “prove” that he never raped a woman. We went for a drive in his car & he picked me up in his Porsche but no one knew. He took me out, & we talked, and he hugged me so
much. And he said that he was going crazy over me and he really wanted this to work out. and he asked if I would marry him later on? he said that it was just a “question” but I said that it was too soon and he said that he understood but he just wanted to see how I felt about the topic and he ignored all his business calls and meetings just to be with me. he even called me after that just to make sure that I was ok but he said that he was stressed out because he wants this relationship to work out. but he knows that my family as well as his family will never leave us alone. so I said that we would stop talking for 2weeks but he called me the next day and said that he wanted to see me again but I said no and he understood. However, he said that he missed me and he said that he just wants to make things easy on me and he wants me to be happy. but now my whole family found out because his mom and dad told my sister and they said that he was talking bad about me and he went and told them that I said bad things about my family and my sister believed them. And he told his mom and dad that he was going to take me away and marry me and be with me because he said that I agreed to it? and the whole family is very angry with me and I don’t know who to believe??? I asked him if that was true and he said no and he said that we should not talk anymore because its cause so many problems and Im so angry. ThenToday my sister was over my house. She asked me to come outside with her, and she said that she wanted me to look at the “driveway”. Therefore, I went and had a look at the driveway, and I saw “graffiti” on the floor
and it said “sluts”. It was right in front of our driveway. Someone sprayed painted that but we don’t know who did that and she asked me if I was still talking with the guy. The funny thing is I saw that sign on the floor a week ago but I just didn’t pay attention to it and I thought nothing of it because I was so stressed out about my family and I was so sad However that is when he and me where talking. I remember him on the “phone” with me and he knew that I was going out that day and he knew that my family would not be at home And I remember him being really annoyed with my family especially to my sisters….My question is do you suppose he did it because Im so confused. My family all think that it was him because my brother in law was on the phone with him during that week and he called my family sluts and they had a little fight on the phone because my brother in law told him to stay away from me. and I have a bad feeling that it was him because I recognized his handwriting!!!! why would he do this and was that intended to me
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He is absolutely no good on many many levels. He obviously has psychological issues and I wouldn’t be surprised if you looked him up yourself and found out that he really DOES have a criminal record. You can’t trust guys that easily, especially if they start moving that fast. If people say he is bad, you should be on your guard. Have nothing to do with him, and if he keeps contacting you get a restraining order.
wow that is long..
i didnt read it all but usually family is right
ahhaha set him up a trap to see if it was him, and if he really loves you, he will go through this pain to be with you.
Listen to your family. It’s always family first, I don’t know what is it, but family’s Instinct is always right. There will be other guys.
you seeing the police file doesnt mean anything unless you went with him to get it. he could have taken stuff out. and if hes on anti depression pills so what its not his fault. be thankful hes on it. but i would stay away from him because its just going to be a lot of drama with your family and he isnt worth it. besides there is plenty of fish in the sea. lol
STAY AWAY FROM HIM NOW!
HE’S TOTALLY BAD. THE FAMILY TOLD YOU THAT ALREADY, AND YOU SHOULD LISTEN TO THEM.
5 WEEKS AND HE WANTS TO GET MARRIED? WOW… TRY 2-3 YEARS.
dear the question is not that he did or din’t do anything at this point. It is that your no feeling safe and that means you have to take control of your safety first and your happyness second.
The police report doesn’t mean a thing, if the rape was not reported or not filed or not charged it wouldn’t be on a report.
This guy sounds like a guy with a lot of baggage and the family sounds like they need to step back and let you live your life, and you need to take one step at a time and feel good about it and then another.
good luck
Go with your Family.
Do not marry this man! In fact, if you continue a relationship at all, take it verrrry slowly. I’m sure there will be many more revelations in the coming months, or even years, about this man. You family is obviously worried for what are probably good reasons. Are they always this way with people you see? Or just with him? And yes, he probably did vandalize the driveway. Also, just because he wasn’t convicted doesn’t mean he didn’t rape someone. Everything about this guy sounds troublesome (even his car). I would keep my distance if I were you. Don’t take anything he says at face value. I’ll be worrying about you, dear.
My Gosh that sounds awful. Im So Sorry for you. I do think it was that guy and if I was you Id stay away from him. That was really mean and childish doing that at ur house. Sounds like to me your to good for that anyways, u deserve better. I dont think that was intended to u but who knows hes such an ass. Be Careful & Good Luck
your family has said bad things about the guy so let me tell you marriage is not a friendship that you can quit anytime you like is a long life affairs so don’t play with your life and never allow anything to spoil your joy, happiness, love, caring people benefits from their marrital life LEAVE THE GUY GOOD LUCK.
This guy is dangerous. He to me appears very needy and unstable. Although he might of had a bad past, it is no reason to feel sorry for him or be needing to give him a chance. The graffitti and the rape together are very serious issues alone, and the fact he is so clingy so quick and unable to stop contacting you shows he has self issues still. Even though he may appear to drop everything for you, I can assure you this is whilst he feels insecure without you but as soon as he sees a green light, you will become 2nd place to his work. This combined with your familys opinion and the behavour and his past, shows a high risk of him emotionally bullying you if you down the track try to break away. You are taking a very big risk, and the odds are low of this working out. Some people have trouble taking negative feedback and only look for the postive feedback to reinforce your wanting to be with him. Seriously, you need to stay away and if you do care for you, suggest he sort himself out, and tell him the truth, he is no needy and clingy, and the rape and graffitti issues are very big problems he needs to make sure never happen again. Without him knowing this, we will never think about rectifying his behaviour.
Your family has known you your whole life, whereas this 5-week creeper has known you for 5-weeks. That alone should be enough to make you shudder at his behavior. But since you insist on a thorough answer, and rightfully deserve one, here goes. He displays signs of a highly unstable, paranoid bipolar with psychopathic tendencies and the capability to hurt himself and others.
Your first biggest red flag is that he mentioned marriage within 5 weeks. People must get to know each other. It usually takes years to decide on something so monumental as marriage. You know marriage means interpersonal dependency in emotional and financial means right? You know that he’s only known you for a little over a month and he wants you two to be dependent on each other? Is this not a glaring display of manipulative, controlling behavior?
Second red flag is the mere mentioning of a past of rape and violence. It’s irrelevant as to whether he showed you his “police records”. I doubt they were real because records, even of traffic violations, are highly sensitive and this man has only known you for five weeks. I don’t think anyone in their right mind would show their documents in five weeks to someone else. Furthermore, how do you know they are real, how do you know he didn’t print some mock-up? You seem to be awfully trusting and naive, girl.
The third red flag is that he is at odds with your family. Normal people who cannot get along with a significant other’s family members (even this is after knowing them for a couple of years, not weeks!) usually break off the relationship as they realize a long-term commitment is built on a strong foundation with both families accepting, regardless of this sexual liberation nonsense that makes relationships individual-based. To sink to such a childish and irrational level as to call your folks sluts, that is an indication of his rash tendencies. This is the tip of the iceberg. He can’t get his way, so he calls your siblings, your parents, your BLOOD, the word used to describe cheap street corner filth. Imagine what happens, if you two are married (God forbid) and he doesn’t get his way with you? Possible rape, beating, or murder. This guy indicates behaviors similar to the common prisoner- rash, overly sensitive, delusional, and aggressive. He is getting so angry over something because he pushed it and your people (who are decent people) are viewing him with suspicion in regards to his advances and his past (which any wise person would do). This guy is a threat to you and your family.
Finally, you are in the heat of infatuation. You can’t see what is obvious to others. If your folks and friends are saying he’s bad news, and you are the only one contesting them, then they are right. He’s got you with his swindling ways and you are buying into it. Stay clear of this guy. He is sick, twisted, and will leave emotional scars on you that will be nearly impossible to remove. STAY AWAY FROM HIM.
Zune and iPod: Most people compare the Zune to the Touch, but after seeing how slim and surprisingly small and light it is, I consider it to be a rather unique hybrid that combines qualities of both the Touch and the Nano. It’s very colorful and lovely OLED screen is slightly smaller than the touch screen, but the player itself feels quite a bit smaller and lighter. It weighs about 2/3 as much, and is noticeably smaller in width and height, while being just a hair thicker.
Between me and my husband we’ve owned more MP3 players over the years than I can count, including Sansas, iRivers, iPods (classic & touch), the Ibiza Rhapsody, etc. But, the last few years I’ve settled down to one line of players. Why? Because I was happy to discover how well-designed and fun to use the underappreciated (and widely mocked) Zunes are.
I’ll gear this review to 2 types of people: current Zune owners who are considering an upgrade, and people trying to decide between a Zune and an iPod. (There are other players worth considering out there, like the Sony Walkman X, but I hope this gives you enough info to make an informed decision of the Zune vs players other than the iPod line as well.)
Zune and iPod: Most people compare the Zune to the Touch, but after seeing how slim and surprisingly small and light it is, I consider it to be a rather unique hybrid that combines qualities of both the Touch and the Nano. It’s very colorful and lovely OLED screen is slightly smaller than the touch screen, but the player itself feels quite a bit smaller and lighter. It weighs about 2/3 as much, and is noticeably smaller in width and height, while being just a hair thicker.
I’ll gear this review to 2 types of people: current Zune owners who are considering an upgrade, and people trying to decide between a Zune and an iPod. (There are other players worth considering out there, like the Sony Walkman X, but I hope this gives you enough info to make an informed decision of the Zune vs players other than the iPod line as well.)
The new Zune browser is surprisingly good, but not as good as the iPod’s. It works well, but isn’t as fast as Safari, and has a clunkier interface. If you occasionally plan on using the web browser that’s not an issue, but if you’re planning to browse the web alot from your PMP then the iPod’s larger screen and better browser may be important.